"We came at a difficult time but it ended up being so incredible, even though my husband only came a couple of times, that was all it took for our work together to make major shifts. The thing that helped us most was that I got really grounded in our time together. I learned so much about the power of love in general and now I can come from this space with everyone. I realize it starts within you.
It has been four months now and things are incredible! I know we still have work to do, but just being in the sessions has shifted things so much between us."
"I was at a point where I actually thought I was going to die. I checked into yet another rehab, because I had been addicted to pain medication ever since I had heart surgery. I found myself anxious, depressed and up until all hours of the night. I had lost everything.
When searching for aftercare, I decided to try a holistic approach, even though I wasn’t sure what to expect. I figured I had taken the traditional route several times with no lasting results. I was starting to feel like I was living the definition of insanity; doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.
When I started working with you, I was on 17 different medications; for Diabetes, HBP, anxiety, depression and chronic pain. After only a few months of making natural changes to my diet, learning coping skills and tools for stress relief, I lost 30 lbs. and have reduced my medications down to 9.
I know this is all a work in progress but as I continue on this journey what fuels me, is that I now have self-love, self-worth and purpose. I have mended my relationships with my estranged son and grandchildren and see my life through a whole different lens."
Holly Springs, NC
"When I heard your message yesterday it resonated so much with me how (you) had experienced the very same things and for so long I had believed that I was struggling and suffering in this by myself. You were definitely a great motivator for me to really go within myself and believe again that I too can get beyond this, and it is my hope that here in Sidona that I too will be able to put aside the feelings of inadequacy, put aside the feelings that I’m not one of the chosen few so I don’t deserve to have the beautiful things that other people are having in their lives. I believe this is my time, I really believe. And I thank you again for your lovely message."
"Doing those little exercises, doing those pushups, circle breathing, and all those breathing exercises made me realize... I'm more capable than I think of. For example, I was doing pushups holding my breath. I was like, 'Huh, maybe I won't make it to 50," Then I made it to 50 and I was like, "Huh, maybe I can make it to 60," and I made it to 60. I was like "Oh, wow, okay," I thought I wouldn't be able to make it to 50 and I made it to 60, which was fantastic."
"I have suffered with severe anxiety since childhood. At 15 years old I was prescribed medication to relieve the symptoms, and told to take “when anxious.” There was no other help being offered to relieve my anxiety besides these pills. By age 30 I found myself taking 18 pills a day, when I once required 3. Yet without them my life was completely unmanageable. I hadn’t realized this was a problem until my new doctor refused to prescribe me that many and set me back to 3 per day. With nowhere to turn to relive my high levels of anxiety I turned to alcohol until I could no longer function with everyday living.
After initial detox I was looking to attend a Holistic approach rather than the traditional approach although I still carried a high level of anxiety just thinking about it.
When I came in for my first day I was intrigued because Kimarie had so much enthusiasm about recovery, self, growing mentally, and a myriad of other things. My first week was full of hesitant optimism.
As I spent more time working together, I became more relaxed and able to be open and honest. The various modalities challenged me and the wonderful people facilitating showed that they truly cared about me and everyone else that came in by the week. It became a family to me. Even as new people would come in, we adopted them as part of the family and I was eager to share with them and be a part of their journey and have them in mine.
I can say today that I have learned more about myself from my time in recovery than in the past 10 years combined. I love everyone there, both clients and staff.
There is one person who, through their knowledge, caring, understanding, and far more that can even be put in to words, has truly changed my life. Kimarie is a beacon of light that I absolutely needed. Through this time, she has encouraged so many changes that I could both envision and put in to action. I can honestly say that I like myself now. I am no longer scared of new human interaction. I have regained a faith I thought lost long ago. Perhaps the strongest result expected of this program, I do not have ANY urge to numb my life with substances. Kimarie is the linchpin for me truly and absolutely. I thank god that I was able to meet her and have her in my life.
I now believe this was meant to happen exactly how it has. I've met all these wonderful people and went through the huge flush of emotions that were brought up in groups and found new understanding. I am grateful for so much and I am happy more than I would have ever thought possible. I am able to do this now because I have truly changed from a cynical “victim”, to a person striving to be understanding, loving, feeling, caring, and better person every day of my life."
-Jay, Cary, NC
"I had struggled most of my life feeling like I was unlovable and that nobody really understood me. I would drink more and more to escape those feelings of loneliness only to find myself feeling worse than I did before. The more I drank the more I felt like a failure, yet I found that I couldn't stop. My whole life was spiraling so quickly out of control I could not find a way out. My family was giving up on me and to be honest I didn't blame them. I had so much self-hatred and, yet everyone called me selfish for ruining things, which made me only hate myself more. After a few sessions I was at peace with myself and the issues we spoke about finally after so many years of pain. I am now able to understand how addiction had such a deep hold on me and the keys to break that hold.
I had anger about two particular issues that I carried around for 42 years and thanks to this work I was able to get to the bottom of it and let it go. I realize this is a journey but every day I feel more joy in my life."
-John W, Matawan, NJ
"Kimarie has been instrumental to getting where I am today. I have been working with her for little under a year and I could not imagine where I would be without her support and encouragement. Her skills at coaching are innate and she has a gift at hearing more that I am saying and pushing me to dig deeper even when it is uncomfortable. I have learned things about myself I never realized were there and found answers to patterns of behavior and thinking that have freed me and allowed me to find and pursue my passion for helping people... I would highly recommend her to anyone and everyone!"
"Grieving after the loss of an addicted loved one brings with it an additional layer of challenges. Loving an addicted person often means grieving the loss of the person you once knew, the loss of your own sense of self, and anticipatory grief that can be prolonged, and all of this in advance of an actual death and the ensuing grief related to that.
Kimarie has deep experience in both addiction and recovery. I reached out to Kimarie after my husband's untimely death from alcoholism. My work with her changed my trajectory entirely. I learned the inevitable does not ever need to be unproductive. Her ability to communicate, guide, and mentor is unparalleled. She creates the safest of spaces to work through very difficult life events and in that space helped me to identify my true life purpose, and gave me the courage to explore that new space.
I will never get over my soul mates death. But, Kimarie has gifted me with the tools and framework for me to move ahead in to my brand new, albeit different, life. I will cherish our friendship forever."
"Kimarie gave me great advice that there are little nuggets in there that are inspiring that I like to tell people and not let fear hold me back from being vulnerable in front of everyone or thinking about "Oh, what are they thinking as I give this speech. Are they judging me? Is this relatable to them?" That you need to get out of your own way in order to to deliver that message. And because it's not about you, but its about other people as well."
"A lot of the heaviness, a lot of the chains, a lot of the weight that was bringing me down, with Kimarie's meditations and with the different things that we've done just was able to really just break that up and loosen it up and let it go and get back to who I feel who I really am which is that peaceful, free spirit."
"When I went for my session I had so many things going on I couldn't keep focus. But after working with Kimarie I had a clearer thought process and was able to become more focused and positive about my work. I have a better understanding about energy and learning how to shift certain perceptions and be less reactive this made a big difference in the quality of my day.
Working with Kimarie was fun, relaxing and enlightening. We worked on many areas of my life and Kimarie was able to help me answer many questions and shift my approach. Kimarie's style is for the person who is willing to combine consistent personal action with non-judgmental, relaxing and renewing experience... I’m not very good at putting my feelings into words and I’ll certainly have trouble trying to explain the love, appreciation, and gratitude I have for Kimarie. I was fortunate enough to meet this amazing woman when I hit my rock bottom. I can’t begin to explain the difference she has made in my life. My addiction to pain medication, alcohol, and benzos (anxiety medication) started several years ago. I almost lost everything I had including my family. I had gone to various rehabs in the past and nothing had worked for me. Kimarie is able to reach people who are lost and hopeless in a way that is so much more powerful than the textbook treatment methods. She reaches your soul and helps you mend the damage that caused your addiction in the first place. She communicates with compassion, love, and empathy. I have never met anyone like her and I truly believe had I not met her, I would not be alive today. Since completing Kimarie’s program, my marriage has been saved, I have my daughter back in my custody, I have a great job that pays great, I’ve been promoted to a management position, I’ve mended the broken relationships with my family, and I’ve given birth to a beautiful baby boy. None of this would have happened without the help from Kimarie. I would recommend her to anyone with any form of addiction or mental illness. My heart goes out to the struggling families but I’m living proof that it can get better and Kimarie is definitely the person to help you get to a happy and healthy state of mind."
-Christy Y, Raleigh, NC
"I was going through a rough time in my life during college and suffering from horrible anxiety attacks when a good friend recommended Kimarie. From the moment I met her I felt completely comfortable and at ease. She was so warm and understanding so it was easy to open up to her. I had my first sessions 7 years ago and have not suffered another panic attack since. Kimarie's work has exceeded my expectations I would recommend her to anyone."
-Dana D, Matawan NJ
"I met Kimarie at the absolute lowest point of my life. I had just turned 37 and I felt lost, depressed, anxious, was overweight and had high blood pressure. Initially I went because I abused alcohol and prescription drugs. I really just wanted to quit drinking and using pills. She didn't just help me with my addictions she showed me a better way to live in every way. She helped me realize again that the world is a wonderful place filled with marvelous things. I still have struggles, but I am able to look at them from a different perspective as well as communicate my needs and feelings more effectively. Today my weight is under control and I have lost over 40 lbs., I no longer have to take prescribed medications, and I am able to see the beauty in the world and other people. I am forever thankful!"
-Dave K, Franklinton, NC
"When I first came I had recently left a 13 year marriage, with two young children. I was in the transition period, wondering if I had done the right thing. Having a lot of guilt, anxiety and fear, even though I knew it was the right thing inside. People always talk about living a full, happy, and carefree life. And I had never been able to get there, no matter how many books I read, or people I talked to. I was tired of living this heavy, anxiety filled, fear ridden life.
I am definitely learning new habits, allowing me to have the fulfilled life I have been seeking. I’m off all medication and have made changes in my diet and lifestyle habits.
I’m just happier every day! I am able to be a better mother and teach my children these same techniques, so they don’t grow up making the same mistakes I did."
"I have spent my life feeling completely worthless, unloved, and without value. I have sat through countless church services, hours of counseling, read books of every kind, trying desperately to understand why I was so unlovable, and was there an answer. You see, I am an alcoholic and spent my life creating a mountain of evidence to convince myself and loved ones that I really was worthless. I have struggled with suicidal plans throughout my life.
57 years is a long time to stand in front of a door that is locked up tight. It is a long time to fruitlessly attempt to pick the lock, to kick it in with sheer brute force. It is a long time to plead with the One who stands inside; the One I know holds the answer to my questions: Am I loved? If so, how do I know? What would it feel like?
The key that God gave me to open that long-closed door was Inner Child Therapy. I have never experienced anything like it. I can affirm that it works. I am only just beginning this journey. I have much work to do and a long road ahead of me but I am fortunate to have wonderful counselors and teachers to help me along the way. And mostly, I am thankful to God who gave these people, their love, and this therapy to me in order to start on the path toward wholeness."
"The talk yesterday on self sabatoge was so brilliant because I know that every single one of us, no matter what we do, every day, even if we try to deny it, we still self sabatoge, even if it’s something very little. So for me, that kind of hit home and just kind of consolidated how we really need to be in tune and we really need to correct our thoughts and realize are really are beautiful fundamentally deep down in every single way."
"I came here today with basically nothing. I had worked on my speech and I tore it apart and thought this morning, 'Well, I have nothing,' And the first lesson has been that I shouldn't doubt my first instinct. That when I believe in something that I should go with that. Second, to believe in the power of sharing your ideas with others and let others, with their experiences, help you by sharing their experiences. That was very insightful.
"I had been in addiction and abusive relationships for the majority of my adult life. I felt stuck and resentful, wondering why I did not deserve a better life. After doing this work I had a feeling of lightness and connection. I was able to address my pain and feel lifted and good about myself again. I felt comfortable looking in the mirror, truly a magical feeling! I am happy again, I feel more engaged and excited. I am finally able to forgive people who have hurt me and have developed happier friendships aswell as a better relationship with my parents. I am more open to things and have a better awareness. My mindset is so much more positive. These sessions have been a part of major shifts in my life."
-Kris, Raleigh, NC
“I have been a participant of the Brave Breakthroughs program with Dr. Machinga for 7 months. Working through the program and educational lessons has been a wonderful opportunity, not only personally, but also professionally. As a woman in a heavily dominated male work environment, Dr. Machinga has helped me tap into the confident professional that I knew I could be, without sacrificing my femininity. I stopped letting my fears hold me back in my management and leadership positions and learned how to communicate and connect with those around me in a way that allows me to push my ideas and insights forward.
The key insights and foundations of the program have helped shape my leadership and management styles to more clearly communicate with executive leaders and those that I manage within my organization. Topics that we have worked through include reframing conflict in order to better understand the other’s perspective, being confident in expressing different opinions, transforming negativity in the workplace through positive energy, moving past fear of failure and rejection to embrace opportunities for growth and advancement, and most importantly, being a better leader by being comfortable and confident in myself.
With the tools available in the Brave Breakthrough program, I was able to set realistic goals and expectations for myself and formulate a clear plan of how to achieve them. With new-found knowledge of how to clear out a mind full of clutter, learning how to focus and be present in the moment, and learning how to “trust my gut”, I am more attuned to reading the tone of business and am able to transform my communication accordingly to influence clients and coworkers. With these new efficiencies, I spend less time replaying scenarios and have more time to focus on growth opportunities, new projects, and developing my employees.
My work with Dr. Machinga and the Brave Breakthroughs program has allowed me to tap into the potential that I knew I had but did not previously know how to harness.”
"I struggled with many unhealthy behaviors that left me feeling like I had no energy and extremely depressed. I am a single mom with 3 young children and felt like my life had completely gotten out of control. After working with Kimarie I honestly never felt this way in my life. I have energy, natural energy rather than just feeling high on caffeine. My mind is clear and all of the sudden I can concentrate again. So, this is what it feels like to be happy and healthy...WOW!"
-Nicole K, Raleigh, NC