Harmony Begins Within Oneself

Are you:

• Looking to get more joy out of your relationships?
• Seeking to be appreciated, respected and treated more like a priority?
• Hoping to create deeper relationships but don't know how?
  

You are not alone...

After being married for eight years, I found myself going through a very difficult and devastating divorce with two young children aged six and three. The arguing between my ex-husband and myself only got worse once we decided to walk away. Every emotion was being triggered inside of us both. I would have liked to believe that there was just something wrong with him so I could go on to have the happy life I deserved with my next partner. However, through experiencing similar situations in other relationships and years of deep self-reflection, I came to realize that there was so much more that I just couldn’t see at the time.

We were actually both feeling the same way; misunderstood, unsupported and alone. Like most we wanted to feel significant, understood, respected, and supported, especially by our mate. What was happening was that both of our buttons were being pushed, and we were triggered. Our insecurities were bouncing off one another. At the time we were not willing or able to give the other person the compassion and understanding needed, because the feeling of unconditional love and acceptance was not present within ourselves. We were looking outward for what can only be acquired through self-love.

I have spent decades studying relationships and taking note of the ingredients happy couples implement into their daily practices. After much research I discovered the secrets of creating harmonious relationships

Great relationships do not happen by accident; they are cultivated. I will admit, I hated my ex-husband for hurting me and wanted to make him wrong for years. All that did was keep me stuck, unhappy and unable to really move on. When I learned how to embody these principles in all of my other relationships, as well as share them with clients, I was finally able to see my ex-husband with more compassion. As I got more inquisitive, I started to recognize where he had also been hurt and I was then able to take responsibility for my part. This created healing between us and removed the tension my family carried for years. It also gave me the freedom to truly move on. I was not only able to create more lighthearted and fulfilling relationships, I could also help others do the same.

The reasons why it is so important for me to share these tools and principles with you is to keep more families together, and to create a loving co-parenting experience so that your children do not have to suffer the way mine did. It took us years to undo the damage that had been done. We are relational beings, and are interconnected to learn and grow from one another.

Here are some things that show up when we are disconnected: 

What Clients are Saying...

"I had been in addiction and abusive relationships for the majority of my adult life. I felt stuck and resentful, wondering why I did not deserve a better life. After doing this work I had a feeling of lightness and connection. I was able to address my pain and feel lifted and good about myself again. I felt comfortable looking in the mirror, truly a magical feeling! I am happy again, I feel more engaged and excited. I am finally able to forgive people who have hurt me and have developed happier friendships as well as a better relationship with my parents. I am more open to things and have a better awareness. My mindset is so much more positive. These sessions have been a part of major shifts in my life."

-Kris, Raleigh, NC

 Each experience is a reflection and an opportunity to learn something about ourselves, and through self-discovery, we can begin to flourish through these experiences. Therefore, Brave Breakthroughs does not believe in taking sides. Unlike traditional therapy and marriage counseling, we come from the understanding that 99.9% of all discord is miscommunication.

Why Choose Holistic over Conventional?

"I believe that 99% of all discord is miscommunication."

"Harmonious relationships do not happen by accident..."

I believe within each one of us is a strong desire to be loved, accepted, appreciated, and seen for who we really are. Unfortunately, fear and a lack of understanding can stop us from allowing the things we crave the most from being possible. 

As problem solvers we have a strong desire to be needed. However, we tend to put others' needs before our own. Therefore, we can quickly lose touch with how we can feel most supported. When there is not a balance of giving and receiving and we make our needs less of a priority we start to get depleted. This can affect our health, relationships and ability to perform at an optimal level. It’s hard when we feel alone, depleted or misunderstood to know how or where to ask for the support we need without worrying about feeling like we are a bother. We end up feeling less important, as if we are not a priority and end up having a strong desire to feel understood. When we crave intimacy (friendship, closeness, friendly atmosphere or physical action) we tend to look outside ourselves. But, intimacy, known as “into-me-see” is also about wanting to be seen. In order to really be seen we must allow ourselves to be vulnerable, no matter how difficult that may be. We will soon discover that is where our power is. As we create deeper relationships and by getting to really know the other person; their goals, dreams, fears, strengths and weaknesses and allowing them to knows ours, we grow a better understanding and develop intimacy.

If we haven’t gotten in touch with our own needs and discovered how to feel best supported, it is difficult to give it a voice and make others aware. Additionally, when we look to others for validation or a safe place to land without first finding it within ourselves, we will notice that it is unsustainable.
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I believe that if we want something to come to us, it must first come through us. What we want to find is the same kind of unconditional love, acceptance and appreciation we offer to others for ourselves.

Breaking the barriers of separation is understanding that we are all one made from the same cloth. I believe that 99.9% of all discord is miscommunication and that if we shift our focus away from conflict and toward solution we can quickly and easily see the misunderstanding.

You will learn:

• What keeps you stuck in chaos and disappointment and unable to create more harmony, connection and win/win solutions.
• What needs are not being met and how to meet them.
• How to ask for what you want in a non-confrontational manor.
• Turn conflict into quality conversation and deeper intimacy.
• Detect when something is out of alignment with your goals and core values and what actions keep you on track.
• Let go of resentment.
  
• Move past fear and self-sabotage.

Creating trust and intimacy in our relationships greatly improves our health and confidence in how we show up in the world.

Shall we do this?

Today is the day to invest in You!

• We have the flashlight and the roadmap ready to go.
  
• Where would you like to start? 
• Shall we explore the possibilities of your next 12 months?

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